Depressed friends: maybe go take a shower right now. Maybe it won’t help but maybe it will help!

Dr. Pippa from @ livengoodreads (on IG) is looking extra wise with her therapist glasses and copy of #MaybeYouShouldTalkToSomeone 👓🔎🐶

Any other adorable pets reading my book this weekend?

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Take a minute today to consider whether you & someone important to you are truly communicating with each other or whether you're simply trading words😌

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But effective communication is like a dance where both people need to pay attention to the nuances of the other person (affect, body language, emotions behind the content) so that you can dance smoothly together and not be tripping over each other’s steps.

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We hear so much about the importance of communication, but sometimes what people think is communication is more like: someone talks, then the other person talks, then the first person talks again, etc.

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Lessons from therapy ⬇️

Patient: We’re communicating more—but nothing’s getting better.

Me: That’s because communicating isn’t just talking … it’s about *understanding*. There’s a difference between hearing *words* & comprehending *emotions*.

#thread 🧵

What if you do everything in your power to fulfill your parents’ expectations of you, but still come up short?

That’s what Alexis is facing on this episode of #DearTherapists podcast.

Need to stand up to family members? Listen and learn 🔥➡️bit.ly/3VM0Js8

“Most people don't apologize because they're silenced by their own shame.”

My @theatlantic column: How to apologize after a parent makes a tragic mistake.

Important lessons on responsibility + forgiveness + grief➡️bit.ly/49roRn1

Many of you have say the #MYSTTS journal has become a big part of your routine...

It helps you reflect on your day & week—then look back on past entries, so you can reflect on your whole *year*📔

Need a copy? Get one for yourself + someone you care abt➡️amzn.to/3DtpbFk

“You have two ears, one mouth—there’s a reason for that ratio.”

Especially as parents, let’s remember to *listen* more and talk less. Offer presence over words.

And, of course, this is true in *all* relationships.

Listen on raisinggoodhumanspodcast bit.ly/43k29vb

Many of you have told me that this quote from #MaybeYouShouldTalktoSomeone felt like I was talking directly to you

Having trouble making a change (relationship, career, habit, etc.)?

Read the chapter “How Humans Change” in Maybe You Should Talk To Someone for a refresher🔥

Ever go from 0 - 100 in seconds in a disagreement? Your past might be creeping up on you...

Grace & Finn are models for ALL of us on what *lovingly* working through disagreements looks like. 🥰

Don't miss this master class on #DearTherapists 👉 bit.ly/3U0rJmB

“What if he can miss aspects of his ex-girlfriend *and* still love you?”

We all come into relationships w our own histories—but where’s the line betwn bringing our pasts with us & not being over an ex?

My advice The Atlantic👉bit.ly/3NGM3G5

Had so much fun @podcastmovement w fellow podcast hosts Death, Sex & Money @AnnaSale, Slate podcasts #JamilahLemieux , & Yo, Is This Racist? #AndrewTi 🎙️

We talked abt giving advice, the communities we've created w our voices, & the universality of the struggles of being human ❤️

“You’ll weather college decisions better if you don’t see them as a referendum on your worth.”

College decisions are here‼️

Read my @theatlantic—along w a *huge* dose of perspective—to a senior who's crushed she didn’t get into her dream school.

Read➡️bit.ly/3IY6dZ6