When you are apologising, Be sorry for your actions and not your emotions.

You maybe wrong from expressing your emotions in a wrong way but you are not wrong for feeling those emotions.

Understanding this saves you the trouble of feeling guilty and focus on the solution needed.

Things that don't make you unloved.
1. Having different thoughts.
2. Choosing a new career option.
3. Not following the conventional path.
4. Dressing as you want to.
5. Your sexual preferences.
6. Your past.
7. Your decisions.

Things that make you unloved:
1. Nothing.

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A traumatic memory can make you believe horrible things about yourself, things which might feel really threatening at times.

An important part of healing is knowing that not all your thoughts are true.

You are not weak. You are not broken. You deserve to live a good life.

So many people end up believing in Karma, Nazar, manifestation because they have a hard time accepting the randomness with which the world operates.

The more you focus on finding the answers of your problems by looking within rather than basing it on random theories and principles, you would start to grow in life.

When you focus too much on 'good' or 'bad' behavior, you tend to ignore the emotional state that drives those behavior.

And this is when we put too much emphasis on controlling and practicing healthy behavior while ignoring what to do with a troubled emotional state.

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If you are a kind person unable to build boundaries, don't consider yourself as a free therapist to others.

Instead, you need therapy to be able to enjoy being kind without letting it become a burden.

A child who wasn't respected growing up always begs respect from people when it becomes an adult.

And hence, more than adults, we need to respect our kids, listen to them and understand them if we want to build a world where respect is given and not asked for.

I like to use the word 'probability' more than 'destiny'.

Because when you use the word destiny, you often feel as if it's your fault not to destined to get what you want.

When you use probability, you understand it's just a matter of luck which improves with chances you take.

It's easy to give advices on

Relationships
Divorces
Death
Grief
Parenting

Until you are a part of it.

While it's okay to be open minded towards these things, It's also important to be empathic towards people living it.

If not, Life eventually finds a way to humble us.

How to choose the right partner?

By being aware. Most often in love, We don't see the totality of a person but only the parts we have always dreamt about.

When you are aware of all your emotions and conditioning, you would see them as a whole and be conscious in your choice.

You are not over reacting. You are reacting strongly to the thing that bothers you.

We focus so much on the reaction that we forget the underlying problems that cause it. The problem eventually gets burdened with shame and humiliation and keeps on piling up.

A history of traumatic experiences can give you a high pain tolerance.

But just because you can tolerate pain, doesn't mean you should.

Don't be so driven into being the 'vicitim' that your 'healing' doesn't stand a chance.

The child who is not embraced by the village will burn the village down to feel its warmth.

~An African proverb.

Your trauma isn't a byproduct of your bad karma.

You do not deserve to suffer nor are you cursed.

Sometimes, you may never find a reason for what happened with you and that's okay.

Work on what you can do to heal the wound so that you can grow through it.

You do not attract abundance by saying 'I invite abundance'.

It also involves a process of unlearning your beliefs that do not allow you to pursue what you deserve, practice behaviors to find more fulfilment and be emotionally aware.

3 Signs of 'Troublesome' Goal Setting':

1. I cannot afford to make a mistake in pursuit of my goal. Only if I am perfect, I can fulfil my goals.

2. When I achieve my goal, I will finally be worthy.

3. If I don't achieve my goal, I will feel like a big failure.